Blessed to Bless! by Steve Klusmeyer
Considerate Spouse
Author Unknown
Home  |
Writings by Steve |
Quotes to Remember |
Pictures with a Story |
| Life's FAQs |
Writings by Others |
Newsletter Subscription |
Contact Steve |
(A few thoughts from Mike)
It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes
harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did
when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell.
Let me relate how I handle the situation.
When I got laid off from my construction job and took "early retirement" in January, it became necessary for Betsy to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for health benefits (?) that we needed. She was a medical assistant when we met twenty-eight years ago and was fortunate to land a job in a couple of Doctor's offices. It was shortly after she started working at these jobs that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age.
I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets
home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always
says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper.
I try not to yell at her when this happens. Instead, I tell her to take her time.
I understand that she is not as young as she used to be. I just tell her to
wake me when she finally does get supper on the table.
She used to wash and dry the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren't cleanin themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed.
Our washer and dryer are in the basement. When she was younger, Betsy used to be able to go up and down stairs all day and not get tired. Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it. If I need something ironed to wear to the Monday lodge meeting or to Wednesday or Saturday poker club or to Tuesday and Thursday golf or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her little more time to do some of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dog, vacuuming or dusting. Also, if I have had a really good day fishing, this allows her to gut and scale the fish at a more leisurely pace.
Betsy is starting to complain a little occasionally. Not often, mind you,
but just enough for me to notice. For example, she will say that it is
difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour.
In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell
her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have
to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and
then wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean.
When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods than she used to have to take. A couple of weeks ago she said she had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I overlook comments like these because I realize its just age talking. In fact, I try not to embarrass her when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I even offer to have one with her, as she may as well make one for me too, and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I fall asleep.
I could go on and on, but I think you know where I'm coming from. I know
I probably look like a saint in the way I support Betsy on a daily basis. I'm
not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many
men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better
than I how frustrating women can become, as they get older.
My purpose in writing this is simply to suggest you make the effort. Achieving the exemplary level of consideration I have attained is out of reach for the average man. However, guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.
/s/MIKE
Editor's note:
Mike's funeral was on Saturday. Betsy was acquitted on Monday.
-found circulating around the Internet